Self-Esteem vs. Confidence & How to Cultivate Both

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Self-Esteem vs. Confidence: What’s the Difference? Imposter syndrome is something we are all challenged with from time to time and further developing your self-esteem and confidence is critical to overcoming it. However, it is important to note that although these traits are often spoken about as if they are the same, they are actually different, and both need to be cultivated.  “Esteem” is derived from the Latin aestimare, meaning “to value.” Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself and what you do; it is your sense of self-worth. It also establishes your relationships with yourself, others, and the world.  Confidence comes from the Latin fidere, which literally means “to trust.” Thus, confidence is self-assurance and the ability to trust oneself; it is the capacity to…

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